Roommate Situations

How would you handle a roommate disagreement?

As a resident, I would have talked with my roommate about the problem to try and find a solution that works for both of us.

As an RA I help my residents with their roommate conflicts by listening to and talking with both of them to try and come up with a resolution. We also refer to the husky mate agreement and we may make edits to it if necessary.

I may have a scheduled mediation session with both roommates in my room, or I may just give advice to one person about how they can deal with their specific situations they present to me if they don’t think their disagreement has come to the point where they want a mediation

~ Joseph Dinan

How would you handle a roommate disagreement?

Having been a resident and now currently being an RA, I have seen my fair share of roommate disagreements. Because I got along very well with my first-year roommate, I never experienced a roommate conflict myself. But, as an RA I have had to mediate many of them. Many roommate conflicts arise as a result of miscommunication. When I approach these situations as an RA, I am sure to bring the Husky Mate agreement into the conversation to bring structure to the solution. Many times it just takes a face-to-face honest conversation to get through the disagreements and frustrations, but I am always sure that the changes or updates to the Husky Mate agreement are in place just in case another conflict was to arise. The most important aspect of living with a roommate is understanding that nothing will be perfect and that compromise is vital to a healthy living environment.

~ Codi Bierce

How would you handle a roommate disagreement?

If my roommate and I were disagreeing about something, I would make sure that I talked to her about the issue face to face right away. I think that it is very important to address the problem before it has the opportunity to escalate. It is also helpful to refrain from being accusatory when talking to your roommate because if you go into the conversation blaming them for a lot of things, they will likely just respond with defensiveness or their own accusations (no progress will be made).
I would calmly and politely explain my feelings and then allow my roommate to do the same while remaining open minded and willing to compromise. Ultimately, if the disagreement was serious enough and we were unable to solve it or agree on a compromise, I would then go talk to my RA about the issue.
The best first step is to try to work the issue out yourselves but if you cannot, there are always resources available to help you.

~ Maggie Luongo